Soooo~ Excitement and Yayness! I have been nominated for the Liebster Award! It has taken me awhile to wrap my head around the reality of it and I have to say that I am both humbled and flattered greatly by the nomination from JumbledWriter. It really means a lot to me, so Thank You. 🙂
To do this correctly, next up is the set of rules I must follow, which can be found below:
The Liebster Award Rules
1. You must link back to the person who nominated you.
2. You must answer the 10 questions given to you by the nomineed before you.
3. You must pick 10 bloggers to be nominated for the award, whose blogs have fewer than 200 followers.
4. You must provide 10 questions for your nominees to answer.
5. You must visit their blogs and notify your nominees.
And here are my answers to the questions given by JumbledWriter.
1. How long have you had a blog?
I started a blog back in 2010 right after I got married; I was pregnant at the time. It was something for me to rant in because directly after I married, my now ex-husband turned into a viciously abusive jerk and, with my entire being, I believe the only reason it didn’t turn into physical abuse was because I was carrying his child in my womb. I’ve deleted many posts about about him and our marriage.
I lost track of my blog for nearly two years, if you count the deletions, because of the marriage problems. I’m doing my best to keep up with it now.
2. What have been some of your greatest achievements and what steps did you take to complete that achievement? (Does not necessarily have to do with blog.)
One of my greatest achievements has been getting a good lawyer for when I went back to court with my ex-husband and surprising him when we finally did; they are seperate, yet completely related topics.
My stepfather found the lawyer after I had been searching for months. Thankfully the lawyer was awesome at what he did. I’d been keeping track of phone calls, texts, visitations… Everything. At the time the visitation schedule was I would have the children for 4 days and he would have them for 3 days; he would pick them up from my place for his visitation and I would pick them up from his place at the end of his 3 days. I wrote down the state of his place and the children afterward too.
Early Spring came and he moved out of state. I was told afterward via phone call when he should have told me, minimum, 30 days via registered mail per not only court order but state law. The day/night he told me he was late picking the children up for his visitation and called to tell me he wouldn’t be picking them up, along with informing me he’d moved.
A month or so goes by and his visitations with the children become more strained and he sees them less because he’s not willing to make the trip to see them and I’m not allowed to drive because of my medical condition, which he knows about. He finally gets fed up and instead of trying to compromise he tells me that we’re going to start visitations every other week: where I will have the children for one week and then him for another week. I disagree with him and he threatens me with the court order, saying that I have to give them to him and when I do I’ll never see them again.
That’s what happened too. I tried to prevent it with an injunction and talks with my lawyer, but it didn’t hold up. He lied to me, said he’d be in a hotel, then took off out of state and I didn’t see my children for three weeks. Three whole weeks without talking or seeing my children. My ex-husband wouldn’t let me. He texted me to tell me that it was “to show you what it’s like without your children”. When he finally dropped them back off at my place, he literally did just that. Just dropped them at my door without speaking a word to either me or the children. And then ran.
The day of court, less than a week after I had gotten my children back, his most recent ex-girlfriend, and now one of my closest friends, had been subpoenaed. Willingly. My ex was there pro-bono (no lawyer) and attempted to “defend” himself. He lied in court, rambled, and had no proof of his accusations. To add to that, he back-talked the judge multiple times.
I left with a smile on my face knowing that I had accomplished something after all the fighting and keeping track of things that I’d done. It’s not over, but it’s not the beginning and I’m happy with that. It’s something, which is more than nothing.
3. Please finish this sentence. “Blogging is important to me because…”
It’s a serious stress reliever.
When I write I tend to rant. I’m honest and I get things off my chest. Whether anybody likes it, sees it or cares is not my problem when I’m in that particular mood.
I have to say, it’s far better than screaming or crying. Less so than cuddling. Definitely less so than sex. 😉
It’s also important because I don’t always rant. I write: journalism, emotionally, quotes. It is my hope that someone, somewhere will get something from my blog; it doesn’t matter what as long as it helps them. Maybe teach a lesson? Inspire them? Or even give hope. Though I don’t always write the most straight-forward; most times it’s intended to make you think.
But that’s the beauty of it. Of help. Of hope.
4. What topics do you hope to blog about in the future?
I hope to discuss equality in its many forms: racial, sexual orientation, gender, marriage. I want to discuss discrimination and the way that society and the media is portraying it. I want to discuss parenting and children because I’m a mother of three.
There are many things I want to discuss, that I want to blog about. Hopefully one day I will get to it all.
5. Who are some of your favorite artists? (Can apply to musicians, writers, painters, sculptors, actors, etc….)
I like a little bit of every genre in the music world. Music is part of my soul; it has saved me many a-time. A sampling:
Adele, Nightwish, Within Temptation, Fall Out Boy, Kaskade, Above & Beyond, Eminem, Josh Groban, LeeAnn Womack, Linkin Park, Panic! At the Disco, Three Days Grace, Selena Gomez, Ellie Goulding
I LOVE to read. I can’t remember a time where I wasn’t a bookworm. It’s hard to choose, but I’ll try to narrow it down some.
Emily March, Sarah Dessen, Lois Lowry, Stephenie Meyer, Robyn Carr, Dr. Seuss, Robert Frost
6. What is the purpose of your life?
My purpose is my children, to lead them and guide them the best that I can into who they are meant to be.
Secondly: helping others trying to help them not make the same mistakes I’ve made or, in retrospect, help them learn from the mistakes that they have made.
I want to be able to make a difference in this world before I leave it.
7. Did you have a favorite subject in grade school?
I always looked forward to any sort of music or physical arts class. They were always the most enjoyable for me.
In elementary school, Kindergarten thru Fifth grade, I looked forward to Art Class the most. It was there where we would paint, draw, ink, and have fun. It was the best creative outlet we had and I loved it.
In junior high, 6th thru 8th grade, it was Band Class that I looked forward to every day. The teacher was strict, but fun and liked to joke around a lot. I was one of the top students and I was proud. I loved making music and I still do, to this day.
In high school it was Choir Class. The teacher was awesome; he loved to joke and was very friendly and the music we made was lovely. I loved the feeling of knowing that I was doing something, making music with my own voice. It was an accomplishment, like a high.
8. What did you hope to be when you were younger?
I wanted to be a model and/or an artist.
I’ve always been tall for my age, now standing at 5-feet, 10-inches tall, and I was always so skinny. I was hopeful. The praise and encouragement that came from my family probably helped that along a bit, I think.
And I was almost always drawing something, too. I was around my aunt a lot growing up and she influenced me back then because she is a very good “artist” so to speak. She can draw something and make it look exactly like it. It’s awesome.
9. Referring to the previous question, have any of those visions come true?
Not really, no.
I developed depression in middle school after someone I was extremely close to died and I gained a lot of weight quickly and I’ve never been able to get all of it all. Plus, with two pregnancies added on top of that I don’t really think that I’m model material anymore… if I ever really was in the first place. Lol!
And I guess it depends on if you want to stick to just a “drawing” artist or not. My drawing skills grew stagnant as I grew older, but my writing skills quickly improved and it was something I found I enjoyed. I have two published poems, both of which are either a First or Second place in large-scale contests and I have many others that I have written. I have also written many short stories and I am working on a novel right now that I one day hope to get it published. I’m very excited. 🙂
10. If you had to repeat one day of your life forever, which day would you pick?
I’m not sure if I could pick an exact day; I don’t remember every day of my life. I can narrow it down though.
I would want it to be when I was younger; no younger than 13 years old and no older than 17 years old. I wouldn’t want it to be one of my bad days, but not a super good one either. The way I see it is that after reliving a certain day so many times, no matter what the day or memory is, I will end up hating it. I don’t want to end up hating one of the best memories I have.
Here are the 10 bloggers that I have chosen for my Nominees. I encourage everybody reading this to check them out!
For the nominees that I have chosen above, here are the 10 question I give to you:
1. Why did you start blogging and has your reason for blogging changed?
2. When you write on your blog, do you try to stick to a certain length? Why?
3. How long ago did you start your blog?
4. Choose one of the following then explain why you chose it:
5. What was one of the biggest moments of your life, good or bad?
6. [Referring to the question above] Did you change in any way afterward and, if so, how?
7. Is there any day in your past you wish you could redo?
8. [Referring to the question above] What would you change, if anything, and why?
9. Did you ever have to change schools before graduating high school?
10. Where do you picture yourself – school, family, relationship, job – ten years from now?
I hope everybody else who made it this far will enjoy reading through the other blogs and websites. They are truly worth it.
And Thank You, again, JumbledWriter. 🙂